The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older. You see, when we are young our fellow friends at school and college reinforce the way things should be done when dealing with potential dates. Yes you should wear that, no you never say that, yes you should do this, but no you never do that. Then we grow up. For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned.
Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head. If you are going to date well then give these key do’s and don’ts of dating some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.
Dating Rules – Do’s
1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates
2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.
3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.
4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring” or something similar. You get my drift.
5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don’t want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn’t prove a thing.
7. Do stay positive even when dates don’t end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.
8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.
9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.
10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don’t condone the dating scene or don’t understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.
Dating Rules – Don’ts
1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.
2. Don’t date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.
3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves – ever.
4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn’t true. If this is your perfect match for God’s sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.
5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
6. Don’t give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.
7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.
8. Don’t be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
9. Don’t ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.
10. Don’t give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.
11. Don’t have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.
12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don’t be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.
Archive for October, 2008
Dating Rules – The Do’s and Don’ts
Unusual Coffee Drink Recipes
Bored of your usual coffee? Fed up with latte or cappuccino? Then why not try something a bit different?
In order to make your own unusual speciality coffee drinks or to produce them in your catering establishment you will need a few extra ingredients.
In addition to your espresso beans, sugars, milk and chocolate dustings that are used to make most standard coffee drinks you will need to purchase a supply of cherries, almonds, hazelnuts, whipped cream and ground cinnamon. These will probably suffice for most recipes and of course not all are required for every recipe.
The final ingredients required however, are flavoured syrups. These special syrup flavourings are available from good coffee retailers or can be ordered over the internet easily enough. If you run your own establishment then your usual coffee supplier will probably stock these items and can deliver them with your usual coffee order.
There are several makes of flavoured syrups available depending on which country you are from, but my particular favourite are the 1883 de Philibert Routin brand from France. The most common flavoured syrups are vanilla, chocolate, amaretto, cinnamon, caramel, Irish Cream and hazelnut, but more exotic and unusual flavours are available for more elaborate recipes.
Why not start with a couple of flavours and build up a collection as you get to know and experience various recipes.
There are many recipes freely available on the internet which you can try out as well as experimenting and perhaps designing your very own!
To get you started here’s a couple you may want to try out.
We assume you have you own espresso machine with steam wand and are familiar with steaming and foaming milk.
Mochanilla
Ingredients:
16 ml chocolate syrup
16 ml vanilla syrup
1 shot of espresso
6 oz (180 ml) cold milk
Whipped cream
Cocoa powder
Method:
Mix together the two syrups and the milk in a jug. Steam foam the mixture. Pour the espresso into a 12 oz (250 ml) glass, and add the steamed milk mixture. Add whipped cream to the top and garnish with a sprinkle of cocoa powder.
Bistro de Paris
Ingredients:
8 ml hazelnut syrup
Double shot of espresso coffee
Whipped cream
Shaved hazelnut
Method:
Into a 6 oz (180 ml) add the hazelnut syrup. Add a double shot of espresso and stir. Top with whipped cream and garnish with shaved hazelnut.
Try making these at home for a delicious change or offering them at your own catering establishment as an alternative – you may be surprised at how popular they will become.
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Writing A Resume: Tips For ur Success
Writing a resume – Let’s be honest-nobody loves resume writing, especially
their own! It’s frustrating to string together all of those life “episodes” in a
way that makes sense for the direction in which we are now heading. Then there
are those questions we ask ourselves that distract us from the whole point of
the resume writing process, like: “How much personal information should I
include? How can I make mine stand out from other resumes? Should I include a
photo?”
My experience in working with job-seekers has revealed a number of
interesting observations. The first is that people seem to dislike resume
writing because it means they have to edit their life. They fear leaving
something out that could enhance their candidacy. The problem here is that too
much information could cause the hiring agent to toss that resume in favor of
candidates that have less complicated resumes.
Resume how to can be complicated if you read a lot of the literature out
there. However, I’ve found that the best results come from using a one page
format that includes all the relevant information a hiring agent needs without
all the time wasting fluff.
What I’ve shared may sound like a lot of common sense, but there really is a
process to creating a good resume. Streamlining work history is usually the key
concern for most people. Resume preparation becomes more difficult, however, for
those who have problematic situations, but even those can be resolved. If you
have limited work history, making your resume appear “thin,” then add or
elaborate on a “Special Skills/Training” section or “Special Skills/Experience”
section. If you don’t have a college degree or formal education beyond high
school, you can still use your graduation from high school on your resume.
Include other training, as well. For those with a long military background, make
sure your duties are expressed in everyday language, and show a relation between
that work and your new career objective.
The most important action to take when it comes to how to do a resume is to
adopt a marketing mindset. With a basic format and the right mindset, that
resume headache you started out with will never haunt you again.
Some people would rather avoid dealing with how to write a resume altogether
and seek help. If you plan to use a service for getting help writing a resume,
it is important to know who is helping you. Check their credentials and
background so that you can make sure you’re getting someone helping that knows
what he or she is talking about. Most of these services charge a fee, and it is
obviously stupid for you to pay money to someone who doesn’t really know what
advice to give you.
Courtesy : Jill
How to Deal With Your Parents Fighting
Many parents fight, and that’s ok! It is perfectly normal because if they don’t fight or argue once and a while, it could end up turning into one big fight! Follow these steps and feel better about your parents fighting.
STEPS
- Always remember that none of this is your fault in any way.
- Never try to fix your parents’ problems, it could only make things worse.
- Talk to your parents about how you are feeling. If you are not comfortable with that, ask to talk to a therapist or a psychologist.
- Let your parents talk things out.
- If your parents are fighting, go into your room and listen to music, watch a movie, or play a game. Try not to get involved.
TIPS
Always remember that none of this is your fault. It is perfectly normal to fight.
WARNINGS
If your parents are hurting each other physically, call someone you trust right away. Your parents should never hurt each other!
Some Tips On Office Flirting
You have probably noticed that you are going to spend more time in the office than you do at your own home. So if this is the case you need to make your office time very interesting and fun. There is no need for you work all your life and not having fun while doing it. Many offices discourage the use of the Internet to do anything else but to work. This is where flirting comes in. Just because they discourage an office relationship, that does not mean that you cannot flirt your heart out with fellow employees, you should. When you get a chance, flirt with a co-worker. Be careful though when office flirting to flirt with someone who looks approachable and fun. If you do not take this precaution you might be taken to the human resource manage for sexually harassing them even though flirting is not!
The rules for office flirting are almost the same as those of flirting in any other place. First and foremost be respectful. When you are flirting with someone in the office, do not make any comment that will make the person feel uncomfortable unless you are both okay with it. Try to refrain from using any sexual flirting. If you must touch the person, do so in a descent way. Grabbing their tits or behinds will earn you a well deserved suspension. You can touch a person hand or shoulders and still flirt with them successfully. Always remember that if touching is your flirting method of choice, be descent about it.
Never use the excuse of sending a working mail to your colleague yet in actual sense it is a flirtatious mail. You could be thinking you are such a genius and just because they said you cannot use some websites they never exactly said you cannot send messages through the commonly used and acceptable sites. You might just find out sooner or later that there is nothing genius about sending a flirtatious mail in the office. You might get into trouble with it. There is nothing that says pure evidence than something that is written down. Take care not to get fired on grounds of sending funny ‘disrespectful’ messages. If you must send flirtatious messages to your office mate do so during your free time and in some other place other than the office. Office flirting could be dangerous.
Lastly, when office flirting, make sure you know the rules that have been put forward to guard against some things. Do not go about breaking any rule. Get all the flirting tips right for you will need them to flirt and have fun in the office. Remember that confidence and fun are all that are needed in flirting. Not everyone will flirt with you, do not get discouraged though, you can step up your game and see what you could be doing wrong. You should also note that if you picked correctly, that is, if you picked the person you want to flirt with correctly, there is not telling what the two of you could do and the fun you will have.